Another thing that kind of bothers me is she trash talks about me with her friends. Get your answers by asking now. The fact that she's picking on your past weaknesses, when at the time, she was actually with you and helping you, is just shocking and disgusting. Your sister seemed extremely caring and considerate at first, and why she became like this is odd and repulsive. Taken from the meme, your BEC is that person who you can't stand.Kim: Look at Erica over there reading that book, so annoying.Jules: dude, she's just reading, you just think it's annoying because she's your Bitch Eating Crackers.Kim: yea, but look at her flipping the pages and shit. We have different personalities and don't get on. We would do stuff together all the time and I always thought of her as my best friend. I am a guy and I'm 13 and my sister is 18. She does, however, tend to wake me up at 3am flopping her fluffy little butt right up next to me as if to say "Ok, NOW you can shower me with cuddles". We have never fallen out or argued as adults. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. Last year our father was very ill, and then died. I didn't always bite my lip and we ended up having an argument, but this time I stood my ground and said "look sis, this is what you're doing. As a pp said, frame it in a neutral, "I've noticed this interaction pattern between us" kind of a way. What have you got to lose? My sister came to visit me in hospital, along with her latest boyfriend. You’re not some dumb boyfriend. I used to get really bad nightmares and wake up and cry (Yeah, I know I sound like a wimp) and one night she came into my room and told me that I could sleep in her bed whenever I woke up after a nightmare if it would make me feel better. She hates me now that I have the confidence to stand up to her and calls me anything under the sun for doing so like a stuck record, and I got bored with it long ago. He tells me the honeymoon is over. I can't change my basic personality type. Recently, though, she has been kind of avoiding me. The reality is that siblings don’t always get on. Individual dogs have different sleep surface preferences, just like people do. Abby has never read Harry Potter, because she doesn't like to read, unlike her sister Haley who's obsessed. she moved out just last August and she never wants to be around me anymore. You’re not some snotty, fake friend who obviously was using me. Stormed around complaining about 'having to do everything' but criticised anyone who tried to help her.. All came to a head one day when she was spectacularly rude to our Mum and I called her out on it. We haven't for years, but I now see that's because I've been ignoring her being arsey to me. If she weren’t family, she wouldn’t be someone I would have anything to do with.” Ouch. I'm sorry that she had to turn around and act this way toward you. By: Soccer Freak 101. I dont get on well with my sister. She also doesn't ever want to talk to me like she used to. Our parents pretty much neglect us but they have never been bad to us. But I know she does care about me, and she loves my DC. 1. Although, I don't really like the fact that she talks about you behind your back, seeming to impress her new 'friends', and completely ignores you. She has gone through some mental/emotional changes, which are retarded, and no longer wants to be lovey-dovey with you because she feels 'immature' doing it, which is stupid. Live Well Nebraska Ask Amy: My fiancée's mom helped her buy a house and doesn't want me on the deed. I just want to protect myself from being hurt.What would you do? my sister doesn't really like talking to me either...i'm too white for her. After he died we spent time with my mum and had to cooperate to help her sort things out. It may take some courage and honesty to self evaluate, but are you patronizing and/or condescending towards her? your sister is a mental and physical abuser who needs to quit bulling you. You’re my blood. If you do decide to confront her be prepared to hear things you might not want to. My sister does the same and now i just ignore her and when she asks for a favor i refuse. Also, she is incredibly sexist, being a girl herself - she would call you a 'weak little girl', implying sexist crap like 'girls' are weak and that 'boys' can't have nightmares and shouldn't want emotional support, etc. How do you think about the answers? The person I admire completely ignores me? Can you tell I’ve been there, done that, got the (whole closet full) t-shirt? It sounds like a phase... Hopefully things are better now. I only ever really see them through my mum now. She speaks incredibly rudely to and about everyone. It is to the point that now I’m 23 and love hugs from her. It’s okay to hug. When I complement her it means nothing to her and she just blows it off. She has not matured out of the "big sister" role. We see one another infrequently, and we are polite to one another, but we aren’t close. Now after finding Husband Doesn’t Love You Anymore, what to do? I can't change my basic personality typeBut neither can she? I don't like him much, either. I realised this recently. Posted Mar 19, 2015 Now, after forty years, I get it too. I am a guy and I'm 13 and my sister is 18. Leave the ball in her court- tell her what she's doing and ask if we can try to sort it out- tell her what she's doing and that it hurts my feelings and that I don't want to talk for a while- ignore it and carry on for the sake of the rest of the family. Now I'm aware of it I can't go back to ignoring it.But if I challenge her, then we argue.What's changed is I realise she doesn't like me, and it hurts. We were a good support for each other when my dad was ill. What would you do?Try and look at it from her point of view. Sisters are like elephants: If you have a sister, be prepared to have her bring up past wrongs and incidents--even going as far back as elementary school--where she believed (and still believes) you were the guilty one. I have a similar problrm im 14 and shes 15 and i no longer see her apart from in school and still acts like i dont exist. We would do stuff together all the time and I always thought of her as my best friend. He gets it. Whether or not you think your sister-in-law is crazy depends a lot on what crazy means for you. What do I do?I did feel like telling her I don't want to see her. In fact, she said that she deeply loves and cares for me. are you patronizing and/or condescending towards herOMG she's patronising to me. She's more successful than me careerwise. And I don't feel like ignoring it any more. Let it go, you can't change anything but your attitude to it, as they say. My client felt guilty and ashamed that at that moment she didn’t like her daughter. But that's not gonna happen any time soon. But the fact that they don't really like us has pretty much made me and my sister really close. Youre different people. The pattern that we'd fallen into as young adults was this:- I say something (usually expressing an opinion about something)- Sis would be annoyed at what I've said, then arsey to me- I react in kind- Sis seems totally unaware that she was arsey and reacts as if I've attacked her from nowhereSo, in order to keep the peace, for years now, the pattern has been this:- I express an opinion- Sis is arsey to me- I bite my lip to keep the peaceI've got so used to doing that I'd stopped noticing it happening.But with my father's death to deal with, there were things I did want to voice an opinion about, and I became aware that she basically doesn't like me having opinions. But it sounds like you are already doing a good job of trying to include your sister and consider her feelings. So I guess my options are:- tell her what she's doing and that it hurts my feelings. But some of the indicators that your sister-in-law is not considerate of your needs include being sent masses of outraged text messages, being asked to take part in gossipy "rumor has it" phone calls, and always wanting to be updated about your business. My best friend is like my sister, and her mom is like my other mom, and I get to love and be loved. I've tried to be mindful of that with my own younger sister (who doesn't date yet). She can’t cope with my commenting on any of her life choices (even though she’s made some huge mistakes recently, like risking her health through not treating her medical condition with actual medicine and selling her house because the mortgage meant less disposable income than renting her mates spare bedroom) and I think this because I was always seen as the clever older responsible one when we were kids. 1. It means I can’t talk to her properly but I don’t know how to fix it. But I don't want to cause arguments. she says he all wants is to get in my pants and yet she's with a 23 year old. Arapaima it's a great description isn't it, I’m actuslly like this with my DGM I’m very close to her but she is over bearing. Is it because you see others with good sister relationships, or because you genuinely like her? I still feel protective of her as my little sister, and I don't really want to cut her off. So, what now? He says most married people hardly ever hang out. How not to feel disapointed with my friends wife? Well to be honest, I can't really relate to you, BUT I can relate to your sister. No cousins or aunts or anything. Has anyone ever blamed you for their toxic habits. Carolyn Hax: My fiance casually mentioned that his sister doesn’t like me anymore Plus, gay man wonders if it’s a great personal achievement to not care what other people think about him. I'm the older sister, and when we were little I suspect she found me overbearing and we've fallen into those patterns since. My sister used to always look after me when we were younger. Sounds to me like she now thinks she has all the answers in "how to be happy and successful" and wants to tell you how to do it. This is page 1 of 2 (This thread has 37 messages.). Why Won’t My Dog Sleep in Bed With Me? She's been my other mom for a long time, comforting me when I am in sorrow, celebrating my joys and triumphs, and just spending time with me, knitting, quilting, or watching basketball. I really hope my kids will get on okay when they grow up. How to tell someone besides saying hi hello to my family , I have left it and everyone is okay with that ? What would you do? Honestly I don't think he'll ever pressure me to do anything I wouldn't want to do cause he's so sweet and such a great guy. Life is much more relaxed now! Unconditionally loving my mother is only possible when I respect and love myself in the true definition of love. Do be careful not to be confrontational or blaming because she'll just get defensive and you won't get anywhere productive. Is it true you only make a once in a lifetime best friend? My name is Rebecca and sometimes I get the feeling that my husband doesn’t like me. I've become aware, that when I am speaking, she sometimes turns her back and walks away as she doesn't like what I'm saying or the way I'm saying it. DS’s school to teach abstinence education, Find out what Mumsnet users thought of Echo by Lloyd’s Pharmacy. It's what I feel like doing right now though. This is the best option for both wife and husband. Dear Annie: My husband doesn’t spend time with me anymore. There is no point forcing a relationship - older one and I are very different people and actually actively dislike each other tbh, younger one and I just don't have much time for each other. We see one another infrequently, and we are polite to one another, but we aren’t close. If you need to keep the connection, then your suggestion of emotionally detaching will work. She gets very easily offended. Our best answer is to talk with your husband. at the Bitch Eating Crackers thing. FWIW I don't introduce her as my little sister. My fiancee would like more time to plan our wedding — and enjoy the process. So if u ask me u should stop letting her use u for favors and say that she needs to give respect to get it, sorry I'm late but I have the same issue my sister is 13 and is a ***** to me just because I'm different then her and I have some issues. ... and my dad said he wouldn't spend time with me and won't like me until our house will be clean. You’re my ride or die, or supposed to be. Enough is enough. We usually see each other about once every 2 or 3 months and talk on the phone every fortnight to once a month, roughly. Try to be more mature with the nightmare thing and don't do as many favors for her and see how she likes it. At the moment that's more like once every 2 months. Where did the myth that bullies have low self-esteem originate? I just love her because she's my big sister. It's a huge win. Sometimes she will make fun of me and I will actually cry and she just tells me to stop acting like a little five year old. Making boundaries is a response to her behavior, not because you are being a mean bitch (she covers that base).Do not get caught up in what she may be thinking or not thinking (regarding supportiveness, family duty, anything) You don’t know what she is thinking. Like most other marriages, my marriage to Matthew started off great, but it seems like things have quickly been going downhill for the last few years. We were inseparable most of that time, but, all of a sudden, he doesn’t want me around. She also finds it funny to wrestle me, which is kind of fun I guess, but she always wins and doesn't let me up until I tell her that I am a weak little girl. My sister used to always look after me when we were younger. ? Our parents pretty much neglect us but they have never been bad to us. Dad Doesn't Love Me. I guess just getting older, you sort of grow out of it. She's the loser and the idiot. This is just like me and my MIL! This poem was one I wrote after my dad told me he didn't love me. I just want my old sister back, the one who would always talk to me, spend time with me, look out for me... the old sister that loved me. I value raising my children in a warm extended-family environment, but I am finding it harder and harder to be with my sister-in-law. But I don't think I can carry on ignoring it. My sister dislikes me mildly and I find her irritating. Interestingly she sounds like your younger sister(even down to the walking out) except she is actually my older sister.We are quite literally chalk and cheese. Follow/Fav My Sister Doesn't Like Me Anymore. I just try to talk to her and spend time with her because I know within the next year or two she will move out and I will barely get to see her. Just because you share the same parents it doesn't mean you have to be friends. One time you should be mean back see how she likes it:p. Never talk to her again, see how she likes it. Relationship with my mother is not possible when the price that I pay includes sacrificing my human rights, individuality and self-esteem.Today Only downside is I don't see my nieces as much as I'd like to, but they know the situation and that I love 'em, and they'll be old enough soon to choose to spend time with me if they want to. There could be MANY reasons, and here are some possibilities: 1. I don't think that I bug her too much, but I don't know. If you asked my sister if she likes me, she'd probably say yes (I think) and she'd say she cares about me.But it's become apparent to me that on a day to day level, she doesn't actually like me. I realised this recently. I actually think when my mum dies (hopefully not for many many years) we actually won't keep on touch save the odd like on a Facebook post. I live in London with my younger brother, Matthew, my younger sister, Annabell and my older sister, Satelizer. I don't have my sisters as friends, because I have other friends. 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